Why People Who Are Bullied Are Not Believed
Workplace bullying is devastating. It’s difficult to explain how destructive it can be and how it seeps into every part of life—both at work and at home. When you’re being bullied, it’s natural to want change and to look for someone who will listen.
But one of the hardest realities is this: many people won’t believe you.
Why Bullying Stories Sound Unbelievable
When you try to explain what’s happening, co-workers, friends, or even family often dismiss it. To them, bullying among adults can sound far-fetched.
Part of the problem is perspective. People usually hear about just the most recent incident—a harsh email, a cutting comment, or a tense meeting. In isolation, these events can seem minor. But when those emails arrive daily for months, or when the belittling never stops, it paints a much darker picture. Bullying is rarely about one event—it’s about the ongoing pattern.
The Risk of Not Being Believed
When others discount your experience, it can leave you desperate for validation. So when a co-worker reaches out and says they believe you, it’s tempting to grab hold. But here’s the risk: well-meaning advice often backfires.
Most people don’t understand how to handle workplace bullying. They may encourage you to “just talk to HR” or “work it out directly” with the bully—without realizing those steps often trigger retaliation. What feels like support can actually deepen the harm.
How to Choose the Right Support
If you are being bullied, it is vital to find someone in your world who not only believes you, but also understands bullying. You need support from someone who:
Validates your experience without minimizing or calling it “just conflict.”
Doesn’t rush you into risky steps like confronting the bully or going straight to HR.
Knows something about bullying dynamics, so they don’t push strategies that put you in more danger.
Having one trusted person who truly understands can make all the difference. It helps you feel less alone and gives you the clarity to make decisions in your own best interest.
Moving Forward with Caution
Workplace bullying is complicated, and disbelief from others only makes it harder. That’s why it’s so important to choose your allies wisely. Seek out support, but make sure that support comes from someone who won’t judge you or give advice that increases your risk.
Next Step: Book a Real Talk Strategy Call
If you’re unsure where to turn, a private Real Talk Strategy Call gives you a safe space to share what’s happening with someone who understands workplace bullying. Together, we’ll evaluate your situation and map out options that reduce your risk and put your well-being first.
